Planning a wedding is a very stressful process for what is supposed to be a celebration. I have never planned one, but my wife did almost 16 years ago. A lot of time and effort goes into planning the right songs, the cake, deciding on spanakopita at the reception, or throwing birdseed versus releasing butterflies. Here are few thoughts that might help you with your planning:
YOU are getting married—not your parents, not your wedding coordinator, not your best friend. Make it your own. Your wedding should be a unique reflection of yourself and your soon to be spouse. Keeping with tradition is fine and there is always the opportunity to add a twist to those traditions, but only if it fits you and your future spouse’s relationship.
The people you hire for your wedding are there to serve you—adding to the first point, your photographer, videographer, cake maker, etc., can make recommendations and suggestions, but at the end of the day, you are the boss. I would recommend having a joint meeting with the photographer and videographer several times leading up to the event to go over staging and timeline of events. This will help both groups get through their day more efficiently and capturing moments without too much cross interference.
Negotiating - You are getting married together. Decisions regarding your wedding should be mutual. If you feel like you have to negotiate, or give something up to get something you want, you might want to take a step back and consider if it is really that important. You are entering into a partnership where two people become one team. Your wedding should mirror that commitment, as well as your styles and personalities together.
Something WILL go wrong—No matter the amount of planning,
there will be hiccups during the day. Immediately after my wedding, our wedding coordinator clocked out. We were left with guessing about the timeline of events that followed. One of my groomsmen didn’t have the bowtie with his tux. Our ring bearer decided to have a melt down and not do his job. It is going to happen. Try to stay relaxed and enjoy the day as much as possible.
Your wedding day is a celebration of the new life that you are about to enter into with someone that you love. I cannot stress enough about things not going exactly as planned. The one thing that you should remember is that no matter what happens, the day will still be perfect because you and your spouse love each other perfectly.